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Introduction to the entire method 

LIFE-SAVING THINKING 
"I didn't know it was impossible, so I did it!" 
 
I'm one soul among billions, a Hungarian woman in her 50s, a mother, grandmother, child, with a unique
world of thoughts and emotions. 
 
Why "Life-saving"? 

Because I have been in abusive relationships from conception. In March 2018, having just survived the
most abusive relationship of my life, I cried out to the world with a desperate plea  
"I want to save my life, I want to save my soul, I want to stop falling into the abyss, someone or

something help me please!"

By January 01, 2020, my life had been hurtling down the slope at an even faster speed, and I found
myself sinking into the mud of the deepest pit of my life. In my relationships, in my human relationships,
financially, as a woman, as a human being, as a businesswoman, as a child, as a mother, as a grandmother, as
a co-worker, health-wise, financially, I have reached the lowest point of my life! 
 
Why "thinking"? 

What are the logical links, the realizations that led me to create my thinking-based method? 

 
1. DECISION: By January 2020, I had reached a turning point. I was so bitter about my failures that I
wanted to find a way out, a solution, because I knew that this was not how I wanted to live my life. 

2. REALIZATION: To stop blaming others for my unsuccesses and failures in life and to stop looking
for help from outside and do everything I can for myself. From then on, the "lifebelts" started to come in
the form of people, situations, ideas, books, videos, personal encounters, conversations, etc.  

3. REALIZATION: I was deluding myself until the age of 50 that I think positively, and I know
everything well. I began to see more and more clearly that I had a head full of negative thoughts. As soon
as I realized, recognized, admitted this obvious fact to myself, thereafter I started looking for answers
to my whys.  

4. REALIZATION: I thought of myself as a benevolent, honest, upright, helpful, straightforward
person. What I didn't understand was why then had my life proved the exact opposite, why I was not
successful, content, wealthy, healthy, happy in a relationship. In fact, I was slipping into the deepest hole
of my life. I was failing in every area of my life. Then I realized that beyond my abusive relationships, I
was hurting myself the most.   
 
5. REALIZATION: I am responsible for my own life, my wrong thinking has created my life full of
failures, so with the right-building thinking I can turn my life in the right direction and keep it there! 
 
6. REALIZATION: What is the logical connection between feelings and thoughts? 
Are you familiar with the sayings "A sound mind in a sound body" and "The mind makes the body sick"? I
took this logical thread further and asked myself the question, if we come into the world with a pure soul
and a healthy body, what makes the soul sick, how can our wrong thinking make our body sick, how does it
affect our own life and the outside world? So that  
- our thoughts give birth to our emotions,  
- that creates our inner monologues and the words we speak, 
- that trigger our actions,  
- our actions form our habits,  
- our habits build our life, that is, our destiny. 
When habits are mostly negative, we are adrift in the sea of our lives, seemingly helpless in a boat
without oars. 

  
The right order for me is this: 

1) Healthy THOUGHTS= Healthy Spirit, 
2) Healthy FEELINGS= Healthy Soul, 
3) Healthy THOUGHTS and FEELINGS= HEALTHY BODY, WORDS, ACTIONS, HABITS, FATE! 

 

By July 2021 I had understood that the quality of my life depended on the thoughts I had in my head

at any given moment. 
 

 7. REALIZATION: With decades of failed experiments behind me, to the exclusion of everything else,
I got to the point where I was doing something with my thoughts, but I didn't know what or how. I tried
techniques like these to 
- "think positive!" 
- "listen and stop your negative thoughts." 
- "listen to your inner dialogue with the little devil - little angel and defeat the little devil!" 
- "forget your negative thoughts and feelings" 
- "forgive!" 
- "in meditation, say positive thoughts to yourself!" 
- "meditate in a forest of golden trees where money falls on you", etc. 
 
It hadn't even occurred to me that this was the solution after all. And with a little twist, over-
mystified, mis-explained, this is exactly what is written in the religions, this is what the orators, the great
teachers, the ascended masters, the spiritual teachers of today have been teaching for thousands of
years. All and sundry talk about it in small details at a theoretical level, but it has not been properly
translated into practice. 

 

8. REALIZATION: I have also been struck by the fact that thoughts are only given importance in
theory, but in practice they are completely bypassed and 99.9% of the time the world is focused on
working with negative feelings. The reason why we shouldn't work with our feelings is that they are a
consequence of our thoughts, and they can't be overridden by thoughts, e.g. let go of your hurt and forgive
the person who hurt you! ok, I try, but how, when it hurts what he did to me and I'm angry at the person
who did it to me! How do I tell myself that I love the person who kicked me, that I forget what they did to
me? Maybe this method can work for a while, but my experience doesn't prove it. In fact, I was hurt over
and over again by the same person, until I used my method to first put the situation right in myself, and
then our relationship. 
Every emotion is preceded by a thought, even if it is only a millisecond, but the thought comes first.
This is the fact that the world, the teachers, swam over, and here I found a gap, a niche, which, as it
immediately became clear to me, is THE FOUNDATION OF THE FUNDAMENTALS! 

 

9. REALIZATION: Science has also proven that we form the basic traits of our personality as young
children, up to the age of 2-3. After that, we add a lot of negative stuff until our present life until we
purge it. We live in a world of thinking and emotions that is logically based on a lack of love, attention,
healthy self-assessment, self-esteem, self-confidence and self-respect. Unfortunately, as a "bonus", this
is compounded by physical and psychological abuse. 
With the help of our life instinct, we formed as small children the foundations of our present
personality in the form of our thoughts, feelings, words, actions and habits. Our present lives are the
result of these, even if we do not yet see the cause-and-effect relationship crystal clearly or do not want
to accept, acknowledge or recognise it. 
I have often wondered why, if as a young child I innocently and ignorantly misrecorded my patterns of
behaviour, I did not recognise them even as a teenager, or at the latest as a young adult? Why did I allow
these malfunctioning response processes to have such a negative impact on every aspect of my adult life?
Because I knew no other means to turn my life around for the good, to change these negative patterns. I
took the ones I had for “natural”! 

 

10. REALIZATION: One of the biggest realizations I had in the beginning was that I had to deal with
my negative, conscious, NOW thoughts. This leads me to the core programs that I can now easily work on
with my method. This realization has given me safety, ease, clarity of vision and control from the
beginning.  

 

11. REALIZATION: The other big realization was that my negative thoughts lead me back to my
subconscious, where I have a lot of negative memories locked up in my consciousness by my conscious from
the moment I exist. For me, the subconscious was an unknown, uncertain, slippery slope concept, I didn't
know how to deal with this part of my brain, I didn't have the right tools. For 3 decades I have viscerally
rejected any method where another person could access the most vulnerable part of my brain. Then,
gradually, the picture got cleared and I realised that I could process all the negative memories stored in
my subconscious along the lines of my current thoughts. This is very comforting for me; it still gives me a
sense of relief to this day! As a result, my consciousness, my brain, is clearing day by day. 

 

12. REALIZATION: As I have progressed with my method, I have found that by processing an
incorrect thought pattern, all the thought and emotional patterns associated with it collapse in a domino
effect. So, I don't have to process each negative event in my life individually. This can speed up the
healing and recovery process tremendously, so I was able to get relief and release from heavy
psychological burdens and memories from the first practice. 
13. REALIZATION: My thoughts have really huge creative power because I create those situations on
the screen of my imagination that should be realized and carried out. First, I phrase these goals, desires,
thoughts of mine, then I empower them with my emotions and feelings. I meticalously imagine the goals I
want to reach. I concentrate on my thoughts about my goals and feelings, I keep my focus on these
until I reach them.

The birth of my method 

From January 1, 2020, I spent 8 hours a day researching how I could help myself in the most effective
and quickest way, to pull myself out of the pit and then continue on the right path. 
I couldn't find a complex programme of practical steps in this world that would get me started from
the ground up. There are "fire-fighting" programs and methods that work well for a while, but they cannot
be used to permanently eliminate the basic problem. In my own experience, the positive results they
achieve last for a while, and then the original problem comes back again. 
It seemed that there was no solution, when the realization flashed in my mind that I should put
together this practical programme. 
My part in this is that I gathered all my thoughts, intuition, experience, knowledge, skills, knowledge,
tried and tested techniques that worked successfully and created an easy to follow, logical, step-by-step
method to become my own guru, teacher, guide, friend, coach, psychologist. 
How did I know, How do I know I was going in the right direction, or being on the right track?
From the moment I laid down my first burden, I was amazed that I could so easily free myself from 50
years of suffering and turn my life 180 degrees in the right direction! 
What is different about my method, what makes it more, new, different, why is it unique? 
- it is a missing link to work with thoughts in such a logical, simplified yet profound way, 
- in theory, everyone is a "Guru", everyone knows what they should do, but we don't immediately help
ourselves, nor do we take practical steps, 
- unique because YOU have a unique world of thought and emotion. You too can make it unique, you
can tailor it to yourself, you can create your own patterns to turn your life in the right direction! 
- You can move at your own pace, without expectations or deadlines, 
- you don't have to come back to different courses, teachers, etc. 
- you get to know a method  having a positive effect on your whole life,
- once and for all, you can permanently end your destructive patterns of behaviour, 
- you get practical solutions for all areas of your life.

 
  

Why can this method work effectively for you? Because 

- You too have traumatic memories from your very existence, which are interfering with your daily life
in the form of faulty, self-harming thoughts, feelings, words, actions, habits, 
- you too have thoughts, feelings, habits at every moment, 
- you live with a clear, sober mind, without harmful, brain-damaging substances, addictions, 
- you've reached a point in your life where you're fed up with your failures and have decided to make a
change and take action for yourself. 

 

What can you achieve by following my method? 

 your brain starts to clear more and more each day, you can keep yourself more and more in a
"calm" state, i.e. in control of your thoughts and emotions, 
 you can easily concentrate more and more on the things that build your life, 
 You are crystal clear about what happened, why it happened, how your negative memories were
formed and their consequences and harmful effects on your life now, 
 a calming, uplifting, sense of relief as you begin to process your negative memories, 
 as a result, you will see yourself more clearly, dare to look in the mirror and dare to examine and
map yourself, 
 you can correct your mistakes, you can develop your strengths, 
 you can keep yourself in a state of mental equilibrium more and more often and for longer periods
of time, 
 you can react immediately to everyday problems and move on, 
 a feeling giving strength, energy, joy, because you can move on from these negative memories, not
just for a while, but permanently, 
 you can either close your existing negative relationships permanently, or the ones you don't want
to close completely, you can find the key to dealing with the other person in the best way (parents,
family members, close acquaintances, friends, colleagues, boss, etc.) 
 you can develop new, valuable relationships, 
 you can find a purpose in life, a job, a task, a hobby, a vocation that you can do whole-heartedly
Which will no longer be a job, but a source of pleasure, and you'll get good money for it, 
 you'll start living a healthy life, you'll cure all your illnesses, you'll live with sound mind in a sound
body, 
 you will be able to control your thoughts more and more skilfully every day, thus increasing the
number of moments that build you up, and you will have fewer and fewer negative experience, 
 you think and feel your life as a play, joy, easy to live, enjoyable, 
 you find your ideal spiritual-mental-physical partner, 
 if you are in a relationship, the good changes will followed by your partner, if not, your ideal
partner will come, 
 as your mind clears, you will be able to devote more time and energy to your creative ideas, be it
financial well-being, health, food, exercise, recreation, etc. 
 financially, more and more of your ideas are paying off, you are not just setting goals, you are
doing something about them, you are making them happen, right here, right now, 
 you're easily building self-love, self-respect, self-confidence, self-assesstment and self-esteem
you'll be able to give outwardly, 
 you can regulate and control your emotions, if you are thrown off balance, you can experience the
negative emotions, and then very quickly you can bring yourself back into balance, 
 you can immediately recognize and deal with hurtful people and situations, 
 you can set boundaries, 
 you can keep disrespectful, intrusive, aggressive, manipulative people at a distance, 
 you can say NO with ease, 
 you can keep away from people who gossip, make malicious remarks, talk down to others, criticise,
steal energy, and are attention-seeking, 
 you can easily get things and people you don't like out of your life, 

 you can achieve your goals through good, healthy communication with everyone, 
 you can deal with people with an easy, simple manner of communication, 
 instantly recognize and immediately react to negative situations with courage, 
 you can stand up for yourself, you can defend yourself, 
 you identify with this method, because here you are not using your gullibility, your blind faith, but
your simple and logical thinking, 
 you can draw strength from your own experience, you can achieve your success through your own
experience, 
 you feel secure in the knowledge that every claim is backed by scientific facts and evidence, 
 you don't have to blindly and credulously follow another person, group, system, trendy spiritual
teachings, etc., but you can follow the right path based on facts and reason, 
 only You are needed for the practical-daily use of the system. You are the one who knows best all
your feelings, all your thoughts, these are your personal, most secret, most intimate thoughts, 
 no one else can help you effectively, only YOU, 
 you can bring order, harmony, balance to your life. 

 

The structure of my method 

I built my method from the stove, giving you easy-to-follow practical guidance for establishing a daily

routine. 
 

I. Theoretical part, where reading through the knowledge of the method, you will understand the
practical part of how it works, what-why you will be doing day to day. 
II. In the first part of the practical steps, there is a groundwork (II./1), in the second part
(II./2) I give easy to apply and follow practical guidance on how to develop an exercises. With
these practices, you can turn the ship of your life around in a stormy sea and get started with the
first initial steps. 
III. In this section, I give you guidelines, broken down into themes, for improving your life
now. I'm constantly researching constructive information, which I'm working on topic by topic,
these will also be available in the future as I plan to continue in future parts. My inspiration, my
topics are inexhaustible, because every day brings new ideas and insights. You can go to light
speed on your journey.
IV. I'm also in the process of writing my autobiography, with lots of lessons to learn. 
V. Case study section with instructive stories I'm uploading all the time. 
VI. Appendix contains a list of sources. 
VII. My daily stories and interesting situations are in this section, I keep adding to it. 

 

What is the purpose of my method? 

My aim is to share the joy of life that I have regained by turning the ship of my destiny 180 degrees in
the right direction and sailing these waters ever since. 
My goal is that by using my method, YOU too can create a happy, balanced, joyful life for yourself! 

 

EVERYTHING I THINK ABOUT, EVERYTHING I FOCUS ON COMES TRUE! 

  

 

Introduction to theoretical foundations 

 

From the 1st of January 2020, I started researching how I can turn my life around for the better, for
at least 8 hours a day. Within a short period of time, I realized that I was totally confused by the
nebulous, over-explained, misunderstood, illogical, over-comical, "here's nothing, grab it right" spiritual
teachings, quotes, what I called "honey-o-magic", the too "dry" scientifically, professionally formulated
terms, etc.  
There are opposing opinions, explanations of the same concept, and everything is very complexly
worded.  
That is why I decided to untangle these threads.
In this section, I have collected the basic concepts, simplified them, cleared them of frills, ambiguities
and over-explanations, and made them logical, straightforward, easy to follow and understand also for
myself.  
 
It is worth reading this section word by word because  
- you will see the context clearly,  
- understand why things happened in your past, how they came to be and how they still work today, 
- you will find reasonable explanations for popular spiritual sayings like "honey-do=nothing, get it right",

etc

I. Theoretical foundations

What do I mean by the fact that science and spiritualism come hand in hand? 
I researched the subject and found very reassuring, comforting facts for me: I found that the
functions of thoughts and emotions can also be supported by science, for which there are tangible
experimental results too. Science can prove the following points: 
- how our emotions and thoughts affect our body, our cells: this makes it obvious that we can make
ourselves sick with our negative feelings and thoughts and we can also heal ourselves with the positive ones
(this has been known for decades as the placebo effect: patients who only get “fake medicine” were also
healed because they believed that they were taking "real" medicine and that consciousness, faith, trust
and will were enough to cure themselves even of serious illnesses that were labelled as incurable), 
- by transmitting thoughts and emotions we can achieve everything in the physically distant beings, 
- all is energy (including our invisible thoughts and feelings), 
- the energy field of our body is created by the friction of our blood on the blood vessel’s wall, a
measurable number, 
- Quantum physics, 
- the German Medicine is a branch of Medicine that can be used to identify the spiritual causes of
illnesses. 
Science and faith are interrelated, they come hand in hand. One without the other is not authentic.
This is why I got hooked on it at the time, from the first second to put my thoughts in order, because I
saw that I was not encouraged towards a blind faith, but here we can talk about tangible, spiritual-sober-
physical things based on logic and sober interpretation. I knew from the very first second that I could only
win with it if it was so interpretable and authentic at the beginning. 
What is quantum physics? 

It is the scientific background of this program. With my thought, I move energies that are not visible
to the naked eye because we are talking about the tiniest particles in existence. We are all made up of
photons, which are the smallest components of cells, moreover photons are light information. Quantum
physics is a branch of science that studies the properties, behaviour, and interactions of particles at the
atomic level. My thoughts affect every component of my body. I have an impact on everything and everyone
I think of, anywhere, anytime. It has also occurred to me several times when I thought of a friend of mine
and within a few minutes I received a message from him or he called me. It is not really all the same what I
give energy to, what I keep my focus on with my thoughts and the feelings associated with them. When I
pay attention to something, I am the creator and also the controller of that process. That’s why it is vital

what I think of and what feelings I associate it with. Among other things, quantum physics proves this
function. 
 
How do patterns work in my life? How will my faulty ego, personality, self-image be formed?
We get millions of impressions that we don’t understand as children, we don’t know the explanations, we
have no experience dealing with them. From our conception, our brains are “trained” to keep us alive, to
protect us. Therefore, with our little childish clean, sincere, vulnerable brains and souls, with our ability to
defend ourselves automatically we develop our personality, which is a fear-based set of defence memories.
These are the responses to all of our traumatic experiences: thoughts, feelings, patterns of reactions and
behaviours. When we sense that we are in danger, our brains begin to look at how we have reacted in a
similar situation so far and will run that program again. Mistaken patterns of behaviour make our adult lives
bitter until we consciously begin to recognize and process it. For example, when I was talking back as a
child, I got the answer, “shut you face, or I will punch it”. As an adult, in many cases, I didn’t dare to say
what I really thought because this fear-based program popped out of my memories. 
  
Why do I need to educate and raise myself again? Why do I need to develop a healthy, ideal

personality? Why is the one I have now not good?

The basic traits of my personality were good, but my upbringing has distorted them with a lot of false,
negative thoughts, feelings and behaviours. Until I could see clearly, with "common-sense", why things had
happened in my life, how and why the people and environment I was brought up in had a negative impact on
me, I was angry with everyone, especially with myself. I blamed myself, everything and everyone for my
failures, for not getting enough love, care, attention and teaching I needed for my healthy development
and for a good adult life.  
 
I can see clearly now that I have no reason to blame myself since as my childish mind focused on
survival, I formed my negative patterns of behaviour. And I am not angry with the adults who were
negatively involved in my upbringing because they acted to the best of their knowledge. As a result, I have
finally taken control of nurturing and rearing my childhood self, giving myself everything I always wanted
as a child. Nor do I now blame others and other people, because it gives me the chance to find the solution
to my problems within myself. 
 
I have been countless times in situations that have left me very shaken emotionally and spiritually
(unhappiness, death of a loved one, misfortune, accidents, illnesses, pains, hurts, humiliation, injustice,
abandonment, marginalization, threat, scolding, cursing, fear, depression, shame, inferiority, worthlessness,
helplessness, anger, rage, guilt, etc.). These negative memories were all stored in the form of thoughts and
emotions. When a similar life situation came up, they were reactivated. For example, when the same swear
words used by a former colleague that I heard as a child, my visceral response was to freeze, unable to
speak for fear of the memories arising. This "invisible force" through the prevailing negative thoughts,
emotions, behaviours, belief systems, beliefs, fears, pains stored in the deepest part of my brain, always
spoiled, negatively influenced my adult life. 
 

Thoughts
What counts as action, creation?

It already counts as an action to think it, so if I think bad things about myself or others, I have already
started a process. 
An example: in 2014 I moved to England. When I stepped off the plane, I said out loud, "England will
make all my dreams come true, good luck will accompany every step I take. I give my destiny this one
chance!" I pursued accordingly and still do that. I have not looked back, nor even sideways, only ahead. I
bravely embarked on one of the biggest adventures of my life, because I spoke no English, I had no skills
or profession, I was 40 years old, and I was going to have surgery on my spine. In the last 7 years I have
learnt English, I have learned several trades, I have changed nappies as a carer for elderlies, I have
worked as a factory skilled worker, I have also done hard physical work as a chambermaid. Apparently,
nothing was going well, because by the beginning of 2020 I had hit another low point in all walks of my life –
including my health, personal life, finances, work too. I was suffering so much from my failure and
unhappiness that I decided I wanted to do everything I could to get back on my feet, it was no longer a

question. I decided not to focus on my fears, but rather on what I want, what I wish for, what I believe in,
because I can't do both at the same time. 
 

What does it mean to clear my mind?

When I realised that the root of all my problems was caused by my negative thinking, I also realised
that rearranging my thoughts was the real, permanent, short- and long-term solution only. That's why I
have to deal with my thoughts. How can I make this come true? By placing my negative thoughts with the
feelings associated with them under scrutiny. In this way I could find the origins of all my traumas and
negative memories. 
Examples: when I was a teenager we were on holiday at the Adriatic Sea, we were walking along a
harbour when a very handsome boy smiled at me, I smiled back. When my mother saw this scene, she
slapped me so hard that I spun around, wanting to sink into the ground with shame. The boy and I looked at
each other and I saw the shock in his eyes and on his face. I didn't really understand why I had got that
slap, because I hadn't done anything but smile innocently. What was my brain recording at that moment?
The colours: it was a beautiful sunny day, the smells: I could smell the sweet-salty smell of the sea, the
way the wind blew my hair, the way my face was burning from the blow, the way I blushed like a crab from
the feeling of humiliation as the cars passed us by. In a word, everything was recorded and stored in my
brain like a video footage. What did I take away from this situation? When a boy looks at me, I don't
deserve it, I shouldn't smile back at a stranger, I should take a slap without a word, etc. 
Another example, when I was a teenager, I had a biker boyfriend who was the first boy in my life who
disappeared after the first date. Since no one had prepared me as a girl how to behave with such a boy, I
didn't understand why he wasn't looking for me. The video on my imaginary screen was already saying that
he must be dying somewhere, frozen in blood. I knew which shop his mum worked in, I summoned up all my
courage and went there, introduced myself politely and asked if her son was okay. Much to my dismay, she
replied that he was fine. I stood there ashamed, humiliated, feeling very embarrassed that I had
embarrassed myself in front of his mother because it must have looked like I was running after her son.
What thoughts have been going through my head about men since then? It shouldn't be hard to guess: all
men lie, cheat, take advantage of me, I'm only good for what they want, they're without character, I
shouldn't believe a single word they say, etc.  
The first love of my life as a girl was ended by a drastic parental injunction and a blatant lie. I
contracted a contagious, very serious case of tonsillitis and was hospitalised for it at the age of 15. And my
parents made me believe that this boy had given me the disease. Of course, every cell in my body
protested against this even then, but I resigned myself to it and after that I did not dare to have any
more contact with this boy.  
 
I got into a lot of unpleasant situations because of my naivety, my good faith, my gullibility, my lack of
vigilance, my lack of a healthy feminine behaviour patterns.  
And the inappropriate fixations that swarmed in my subconscious have resurfaced again and again over
the 5 decades. Since I had stored up a lot more negative events, thoughts and feelings, they came back to
me again and again. Until I recognised these traumatic events and processed and transformed them in a
way that they could no longer cause me pain, but serve my purpose. 

II. Exercises 

 

Introduction 

 

The exercises in this section are designed to
- transform old-school unhealthy habits and personality traits
- develop new-ideal-builder-healthy habit systems and personality traits

 

Me, you too, everyone has virtues and flaws. We can no longer correct or erase our past mistakes
(negative thoughts/feelings, wrong patterns of behaviour, inappropriate reactions) because we have not
been taught that, we do not have the tools to do so. Rather, we cover them up, suppress them, hide them,
deny them even to ourselves and in most cases repeat them over and over again, make these mistakes. 
In today's fast-paced world, everyone is chasing themselves. Even when we achieve small or big
successes, we cannot really be happy about them, there is no time to stop and appreciate them, because we
have to keep going. 
We don't really think about the values that don't cost money, because we take them for granted. We
almost don't notice them. 
For example, I know myself to be trustworthy, honest, conscientious, decent, yet no one praises me for
it, not even myself. On the other hand, if I mess up or do something wrong, I get negative comments from
the outside world and from myself. No one else forbids me to praise and acknowledge myself, so why do I
take it for granted that I am always berating myself? I know that it is not self-praise that we have been
taught so far, but the opposite, that we were not allowed to praise ourselves because it is conceit. To
scold, to devalue oneself, to trample self-confidence in the mud, to undermine self-esteem is allowed, it is
allowed by the environment, by upbringing, by society! 
That is how values are eroded, that is why shortcomings, faults, negative qualities are always in the
foreground. That is why there are countless number of conflicts in life, because we cannot control not only
others, but even ourselves, our tensions, our thoughts, our emotional outbursts, our words, our actions. 
Not to mention all the negative information in the media and on the internet. We are surrounded by it
everywhere. One has to be conscious indeed who can shut himself off from it.
That is why this is not the best way to go. Why am I saying this? Because negative life situations,
events, situations come and go in my life every day, just like the joyful experiences. The negative ones
have to be dealt with somehow or we suffer from them. Many times, we hope for external help and use
these expressions such as  

"we'll manage somehow"
"time will heal all wounds!"
"there is no such thing as no way" etc.

Nothing will work itself out, nothing will go right "just like that"! Because we are always brooding,
blaming ourselves for not being able to solve our problems, fretting, worrying, getting angry, suffering
until the last minute.  
But that's exactly what we want to avoid. But how? When we don't know what to do, we don't have the
tools to solve the negative situations in our lives immediately and easily. 
Sometimes, on rare occasions, situations that seem impossible are resolved at the last minute, almost
on their own. Yet we don't want to leave our lives to blind chance, even though we are drifting with the
tide almost helplessly. We cannot see clearly how we can take back control of the events of our lives. 
Because of our long-established negative habits and personality traits, our lives have not really turned
out the way we would have liked. These delusional systems 

 about ourselves, 
 about our relationships with others, 
 about our families, 
 our friends, 
 about money, 
 our work, 
 our body image, 
 education,  
 our health, etc. 

can be overwritten with the following exercises.

  Therefore, it is good to become aware of the negative thoughts that are working within you,
noticeably but 99% unnoticed, because then you can clearly identify and permanently correct your
mistakes. 
 By using my method, I can get up from negative situations in my life in no time and move forward,
regaining my mental balance and calm.   
 I consider myself a person with two feet on the ground, a logical and simple thinker, who only listens to
my clear, simple, logical mind, and I use it every day. 

 That is why you will not find the following in my method: 

 scalar, love and life energy neither in-person nor distance healing, 
 creative practices, 
 spaceships to save humanity, waiting for the "event", 
 alien civilization, 
 alien visitation, 
 positive thinking only, 
 Ego related negative practices such as "kill it", "destroy it", "forget it", etc. 
 life energy, sunlight, light energy fluids, droplets, 
 dealing with past lives, 
 seven-lifelong retrospective analyses, 
 foresight and analysis, 
 camps, trainings, courses, 
 health assessment and restorative treatments, 
 treatments where your subconscious is accessed by others, 
 inner light therapy, 
 emotional release methods, 
 magical, witchcraft training, 
 light workers, light helpers, 
 spiritual ego, 
 abundance-creating, million-fold days, 
 guided meditations (cave, meadow, beach, balloon, golden tree, health forest,
river, etc.)  
 raising one's own and the Earth's vibration level, 
 fortune cookies, 
 using the names Moonbabies, Starlets, Sweethearts, Darlings, Sunbabies,
Sweeties, Warriors, Winners, etc, 
 songs, poems, 
 space arrangement, 
 end of the world, 
 soul healing,  
 healing with numbers, 
 personality trait classification: narcissistic, borderline, ADHD, etc. 

I could go on and on. 
To avoid any misunderstanding, you can believe in the methods listed above, because everyone believes
in what they want. I would just like to illustrate my own approach: there is nothing else we need to do to
make a radical and permanent change, we just need to work with our minds alone. 
If you accept this simple fact, then we can get started. I've put together the simple, logical step-by-
step exercises needed to do this in this chapter. 
 Why is there so much emphasis on the importance of 'working' with our negative thoughts? 
Let's think logically about why this is our biggest, most basic addiction. 
 

"What have I done to myself?"

This question was posed to her by a friend who had a near-death experience. She looked at her life so
far and saw how much she had hurt herself, how much she had harmed herself.  
I ask myself this question as often as I have negative thoughts and feelings that hurt me, that I hurt
myself with, that I hurt myself unintentionally. Obviously, I used to jokingly say to myself when I did
something wrong, "oh how stupid of me", but this little innocent joke is also very destructive. But even a
simple expression like "damn" brings a lot of negativities besides annoyance and anger. You can transform
these to move your life forward as well. 
In fact, you can turn your life around for the better if you can see in black and white the kind of
person you are, the kind of thoughts, feelings, words, actions, habits you have. 
 Let’s take an everyday situation: 
You are driving your car on the road and suddenly a car overtakes you, almost causing an accident. At
first you are frightened, your adrenaline levels skyrocket, your negative thoughts and feelings start to

flood in, you are overcome with anger, in many cases you curse, you berate the irresponsible person, you
get annoyed for a long time, you can hardly calm down, and later you repeat the negative experience
several times, reliving all the unpleasant thoughts and feelings over and over again.  
Because of such a negative experience, we load our brain, our soul, our life, countless times. There are
many such negative experiences in our storehouse that keep on interfering with our lives. Among other
things, you can learn to process such negative memories. 
  

How can you take action?

I have built every excersice schematically, one on top of the other, so you can guide yourself through
the practical method in sequence. 
 

II./1. Primary-collection work (Month: 2)

This is an exploratory part, where you can recall each moment of your life. I have been adding to this
list for years because I always have memories that "pop into my head" from the past that I am dealing
with now. 
The reason you make your lists is because you only become aware of the good thoughts to reinforce and
the negative thoughts to reframe when you see written down on paper, in black and white, what thoughts
are cluttering your mind.  
 I ask you to fill out these lists very carefully and honestly, because they form the basis of Exercise
II./2.

II./2. Exercises (Month 3-20)

In this section, I explain in detail for each exercise what they are for, how they are structured and
how to do them. 
I have grouped together in this section the practical steps that work with high effectiveness. They are
intended to  
1) help you shift your attention from harmful thoughts to constructive thoughts by processing
memories of the past, 
2) surround you with your correctly formed helping thoughts as much of the 24 hours a day as possible, 
3) you form new habits and belief systems that guide your life in the right direction. 
 
If you follow the exercises step-by-step, in this case I guarantee you will be as successful and
productive as I was. It pays to do each step honestly, with maximum concentration, because that's how my
method worked and still works most effectively for me. 
With these exercises, I turned the ship of my life 180 degrees from rough seas to sunny, gently rolling
waters, and I've been moving forward with more confidence every day since. 
 
The method of developing your new habits will be effective if you do the sequential exercises honestly. 
You can establish your new habits by repeating the practical steps every day. 
With these techniques, you can free yourself from all the suffering, anxiety, worry, tension that has
been building up inside you. 
 
I recommend keeping a binder to keep your lists in, because you can always add to them as new
information comes in. 
I use another binder for the exercises, because I can change and expand them as I need them. 
 Always have a sheet of paper and a pen with you. As soon as another memory comes to your mind, you
can jot it down so that you wouldn’t forget to add it into your list.
Since you want to make a change in your life, it's time to put the theoretical knowledge you've acquired
into practice.  
By the time you have written out all the negative and positive events in your life in response to the
practical steps, you will be able to see with complete clarity that  

 when, 
 where,  
 why,  
 how  

you created your own wrong belief systems, wrong habits and their consequences for which you have
been responsible. You can now correct these, so you can turn your life 180 degrees in the right direction
and take the first steps. 
 
By the age of 50 I can finally take myself seriously, take responsibility for all my thoughts, feelings,
actions and behaviour. Thanks to this, I have the reins in my hands to control my life.  
 
I invite you to do some interesting, exciting, light, playful, yet deep, responsible, serious work in this

section!

 

II./2. Practical steps
Introduction to the practical steps

Congratulations for reading through the theoretical basics and for starting to write your Primary
Collector's lists last month.
I can answer any questions you may have about these at my contact details in the Contact Us section of
my website.

How did I create the practical steps?

I consider myself a rational, logical person with two feet on the ground. I listen only to my own
experiences, which I see with my own eyes and hear with my own ears. I encourage you to do the same, to
investigate all the information, to see for yourself how the scientific evidence supports the way we think.
The question is rightly raised: How do you know that this method will work, that the steps will be
successful for you too? I completely agree with you that we are different, we don't have 100% identical
ideas. We are certainly similar in one way, we both have thoughts regardless of age, gender, upbringing,
social environment, health, religion, sect, religion or race. This is an important factor because the following
exercises allow you to "work" with your own thoughts only in your awake state.
To achieve successful results, you will need your clear, healthy mind, brain and nervous system. For this
very reason, it is extremely important to completely exclude mind-altering substances (medicine, drugs,
alcohol, etc.). Only in this case can success be guaranteed!
THINKING

With the help of the Theoretical section, we've got to the point where you'll be working exclusively
with your thoughts. Drawing this line forward, let's see how our previous thinking has led us to our now-
adult thinking.

OUR CHILDHOOD THINKING

From the very beginning of our existence, our brains record a lot of information every single moment
for our survival and development. It selects our memories to protect itself from overload. Some memories
it fades, some it erases. There are also memories that we still remember as vividly today (as if we were
projecting a video film on our imaginary screen: we can recall the smells, the scents, the images, the
people, the gestures, the colours, our thoughts, our feelings) as if it had happened yesterday.
We think of positive memories with a smile and a good feeling. Fewer of them remain in our memory
than negative memories. We can't really do anything about the negative events, we just suffer the
consequences.
Why does a negative life event have a much greater impact on us? Why don't we carry all the good

memories?

There are several reasons for this.
For starters, we have had a negative upbringing and we have not been taught how to deal with
stressful situations - the exception that proves the rule. We associated a negative memory with a lot of
destructive thoughts and feelings as a young child. We did this because we had no tools or solutions at
hand to deal with these hurtful situations in an ideal, healthy and appropriate way.

Science shows that we form the basic traits of our personality, the foundations of our behavioural
patterns, by the age of 2-3. As children, we watch and imitate every movement and vibration of our
caregivers. Obviously, we cannot blame our toddler selves for the way we thought, reacted, learned and
taught ourselves our erroneous patterns of behaviour. It was the best way then and there, it was what our
little brains at the time thought was appropriate. For example, when our tutor shouted at us, we were
scared, we flinched, or shouted back, or didn't dare to shout back, we froze, or ran away, hid. Do your
childhood memories often come to your mind too? Can you recall what you thought, felt, reacted to in just
that one stressful situation? Then came the next similar situation, where you used your wrong thoughts as
a reaction and this process has taken you down a whirlwind until now. Even as adults, we are convinced that
our own experience, our own reality, is the truth. We also convince ourselves that we are not harming
ourselves or others, even though we are very cruel to ourselves.
We keep repeating over and over again these faulty entrenchments of ours, until at some point we feel
the need to stop and examine our own lives and examine why and where are the faults in our own lives?
What exactly do I mean? Imagine each type of behavior on a scale,
- with under-functioning-under-balance on the left,
- ideal-healthy balance in the middle,
- and over-functioning-over-balance on the right.
For example, consider the now "fashionable" narcissistic behavioural traits:
- if too little, then over-sensitive, victim lamb, nebbish flower, self-subordinating, under-valuing,
dependent on others, over-controlled, naive,
- ideally: confident, assertive, healthy self-esteem/self-worth, self-interested and also focusing on the
interests of others,
- if there are too many of them, we can talk about conceit, arrogance, selfish, superior, manipulative
personality traits.
As you can see, there are two sides to all our behaviours and traits, but that doesn't mean that
everything is black and white. Even more! If you observe yourself, you will find that there is a lot of mixing
and matching. For example, you are confident at work, but more insecure in love. But in both cases, it is
about YOU.

OUR ADULT THINKING

In our childhood, no one and no method teaches us how not to incorporate negative patterns into our
lives, or if we have, how to get rid of them. Nor are we taught how to manage our good and bad qualities.
So we ignore them and even sweep them under the carpet. Yet if we had known as children how much pain,
fear, dread, fear and destruction our negative thoughts cause, we would have worked on them immediately.
As adults we don't understand why our lives are not going well in relationships, work, health, finances.
We wonder why we are not fully satisfied and happy when we have everything we need.
We are baffled by all our unusual, inappropriate, unadult-like, inexplicable behaviour and reactions.
Often, we even stumble at our own thinking, startled as our negative thoughts race rampantly through our
minds.

What kind of thinking do we live our daily lives with as adults?

There is no perfect human, no life without mistakes. It is inherent in life that we make mistakes,
unintentionally and intentionally, hurting others and ourselves. We have a lot of questions, such as
- Why am I so uncomfortable, unpleasant, miserable?
- Why do I berate myself for the mistakes I have made and the mistakes I have not yet
made?
- Why do I blame myself for the mistakes I can't undo, the mistakes I can't change?
- Why can't I work through my mistakes?
- Why can't I learn from my mistakes?
- Why do I make the same mistakes over and over again?
All mistakes can be corrected, or lessons can be learned. The good news is that these exercises will
give you a toolkit to manage all your mistakes. You can work through the patterns that are still working
poorly. For me, it took me 50 years to realize that I had created these negative thoughts and was saying
them incessantly inside, to myself. That's when I realized why and how they were malfunctioning in my life.
Even though I have had a horde of abusers throughout my life, one of the biggest realizations was that:

I am the most ruthless abuser of myself!

I wanted to lose this abusive behaviour anyway. So, I focused every nerve fibre I had on what I could
gain from this method.
Thanks to the gathering work of the previous month, you can clearly see what you want to lose and what
you want to gain by using my method.
It should be a natural state of being when you are happy, healthy, successful, energetic, balanced,
content, have a beautiful family, precious friends, a perfect job, house, car, etc., nice clothes, can go on
holiday several times a year. That is when you enjoy every moment of your life and feel good about
yourself.
How long do these moments last and how many of them are there in a day? They seem much fewer than
the ones below:
- stress - you react to it in a very unusual, inappropriate way,
- you go into shock-freeze, run away, fight, and these are the things you want to avoid the
most,
- unexpected situations, hurtful-negative people intruding into your daily life-"windmill"
fights with them unnecessarily, which is the opposite of what you want,
- illness, unexpected accidents happen to you or your loved ones - you panic, you are annoyed
about these situations,
- you have everything you need, you "should" be happy, yet you have unexplained feelings of
"lack", dissatisfaction, despair,
- you feel the ground slipping from under your feet, you feel out of control, you lose the
control from your hands, you feel like you're just drifting along with the current, etc.
- your mind is full of harming, destructive, negative, self-sabotaging, self-offensive and
meaningless thoughts.

In summary, you have qualities, reactions, patterns of behaviour that you don't understand, you can't
explain. You are at a loss to understand why they dominate your life, why you cannot regain control of
them.
In order to maintain peace of mind, it is worthwhile to understand which events cause
- you to lose control,
- throw you off balance,
- trigger negative emotions that you find difficult to deal with,
- take a long time to regain your peace of mind.
With these exercises, you will see clearly the destructive thinking you have been living your life with,
and the negative consequences it has had. Because you already know what you want to change, you can
develop a constructive mindset.
How can you help yourself to correct your mistakes and further develop your strengths and virtues?
Since all mistakes can be corrected, negative traits, personality traits, behavioural patterns, reaction
patterns can be corrected and made ideal.
To illustrate with a simple example: as a new born, your brain is like a freshly dug flower garden where
the outside world has planted many flowers and many more weeds over the years.
Weeds are all forms of abuse: fear, dread, insecurity, devaluation, betrayal, love-hunger, mistrust,
self-blame, over-assumption of responsibility, insecurity, anger, humiliation, exclusion, feelings of
loneliness, etc.
As a small child, you accept these weeds as flowers, nurture them, water them, cherish them, see them
as true, your own reality as beautiful, good. You feel somewhere deep down inside, in your soul, your
conscience is telling you that it is not as beautiful and fragrant as the real flowers. It's not right yet you
believe it, you don't dare to contradict the adults.
These weeds that you think are flowers grow, proliferate, multiply, take up more and more space in the
flower garden of your life, which of course makes you feel worse and worse. Even in your childhood, but as
an adult, your everyday life is increasingly plagued by problems, lack of success, failures, illness, stress,
unexpected difficulties.
Even if sometimes you realize that the weeds are preventing the beautiful flower from coming to
fruition, sometimes you stop, that it's not going to be okay, something is wrong, you don't feel good, you
have to spend more energy and time to solve your problems, yet you don't care. Instead, you resign

yourself to the fact that you can't change it, it's not your fault, other people have similar gardens, or
other people's beautiful gardens are more beautiful because their life is easier, etc. Even though you feel
like a decent, honest, good-willing, helpful, hard-working, smart, lovable, reliable, valuable person, life
treats you like a boat without oars, drifting along on a swiftly rushing river.
Making the same mistakes over and over again in your life, you scatter more and more weed seeds in
your garden, convinced that they are the beautiful flowers. But one day you'll finally get tired of the
constant struggle. Fortunately, it doesn't take a major tragedy or illness in people's lives to pull on the
handbrake and stop and realise that this is not the garden you've been wanting all your life.
The warning signs and happenings are different in everyone’s case. Your life journey is unique from this
point of view too. Your habits to react to various situations are also different. Consequently, you arrived at
the most important decision situation. You would like and want to change your life here and now.

What was my flower garden like until I was 50?

Weeds several metres high, thick as a jungle, with the occasional pretty flower. To put it in
perspective, it was 97% weeds, 3% flowers.

Why is it so important to make this DECISION?

Because we have free will, we can make decisions at any time. Our lives are therefore a series of
decisions and their consequences.
As a consequence of my wrong choices, I suffered abuse from others and myself until I was 50. In
retrospect, I can clearly see that life has repeatedly tried to steer me towards decision making with
unexpected stressful situations of greater or lesser magnitude, such as illness, accidents, negative people,
situations, etc. I was so drowning in the "weed forest" of my thoughts that I could not see a way out of any
of them until I was so lost in the jungle that I DESPERATELY wanted to get out.
I looked up to the sky and desperately asked for help. In that plea was all my pain, fear and despair.
There and then I gave up all the fight, I lowered my imaginary shield, I surrendered to my fate, I no
longer wanted to fight with strength, like when the deaf press the bell, I left behind my previous survival
strategies.
One of the reasons why this decision is so important is that:
- I RECOGNISED that I was not living my life the way I had always wanted to,
- I SAW that I had done something wrong up to that point that had caused me to fail in
every area of my life,
- I HAD ENOUGH of not being able to handle negative people and situations,
- I knew that if I didn't take control of my life now, I would be sliding down a slippery slope
for the rest of my life,
- I HAD ENOUGH of being sick all the time, I knew I didn't want to go through life
suffering,
- I felt I HAD TO STOP and look around at what this mess I've been in for 50 years,
- I wanted to REALIZE why I wasn't feeling good about my life,
- I wanted to find my own explanations why I get slapped around,
- I knew THERE WAS A REASON FOR EVERYTHING, including negative events, I just
needed to find the right explanations,
- I WAS READY to do ANYTHING to get answers to my questions,
- instead of expecting help from others, I have REALIZED that I am the ONLY ONE WHO
CAN HELP ME, NO ONE ELSE,
- I began to SUSPECT that I could not radically change my life for the better with the way I
was thinking and acting,
- I finally WANTED TO TAKE ACTION on my destiny,
- I PROMISED myself that I would keep searching until I found the best solution for me.
And behold! From then on, ideas came in form of people helping, information. It took me almost 3,5
years of research to create this method. I now have the tools in my hands to start eradicating the weeds
in the garden of my thoughts.

For some sooner, for some later, for some smaller, for some bigger tragedies, negative situations, it
takes a DECISION to change one's life. You don't have to suffer for so long. It's just a matter of
decision: you can wait a few more years, decades, or you want to live well from now on.
How and why can you experience the success of my method first hand? Why will it be authentic for

you?

Because
- through the exercises, you write your own personalised Life Lesson,
- your own life is the curriculum,
- no one else knows your thoughts and feelings better than YOU,
- you follow and apply each step of the exercises conscientiously, diligently,
- you will have a tangible part in your experiences and undergoing,
- you receive not just temporary answers and solutions by doing the exercises, but a lifelong
method of daily application,
- day by day, more and more often and for longer and longer periods of time, you will regain your
self-control, you will be able to control your emotions,
- you can keep your mind and your thoughts clear day after day,
- and day by day you get that feeling of "I'm in such a good place".
As you progress with the exercises, your thoughts become clearer and clearer, so you can use my
method to successfully apply your "truthful" magnifying glass. It's that certain conscience, that invisible
compass that always whispers the right direction. It has helped countless times, yet we have never
listened to it, citing various excuses. With this magnifying glass, we can instantly detect the harmful
weeds, the destructive thoughts that we pull up by practical steps from the root and then scatter flower
seeds.
I know from my own experience that it is possible to learn, master and develop the
ideal/builder/healthy
- self-love,
- self-respect,
- self-confidence,
- self-assessment,
- self-esteem
qualities that will be the pillars of your new-found contented life and will accompany you
throughout your life.
You must not have looked into the hellish depths of your own self with such tools, you must not have
dug into your own past. And you haven't had any help at all so far in how to successfully and finally put
your mind in order.
This is the kind of background work that gives you a fresh start and you can use it to your
advantage throughout your life.
It is just You alone who is needed to do the exercises and if you do your best to feel good about
yourself, then it will happen just like that.
Whether your mindset is destructive or constructive, you can be 100% sure it will be the way you

think it will be.
STRUCTURE OF EXERCISES

There are a lot of techniques in the self-awareness palette, you've probably come across a good number
of them. I respect that if using any of them works in the short and long term and you can guarantee
yourself success, effectiveness, you can really change all areas of your life for the better, you can finally
break down the misconceptions that are plaguing your life now.
Why do they only provide temporary help? Why do these exercises not provide a permanent solution?

Why do you have to do the same techniques over and over again?

My own experience is that these exercises work for a while. The answer is in the question: it is because
the bad thoughts keep coming back and starting all over again, because our negative thoughts do not go
away on their own-until the deepest cleansing of the mind has been done. Therefore, these harmful
thoughts come up again and again "viscerally".
I can illustrate the application of these techniques with the example of "weeding": every single
problem in our present life is a weed. Each time we apply these techniques, the weed is cut back and will
grow back in time because it has not been pulled up by the roots. So, you have tried to do everything you
can to get rid of your problem by applying the different techniques you have learnt. You have tried to
empty your mind, distract yourself, etc. Because you have not yet found the root of the problem, you have
not been able to deal effectively with its consequences, its negative effects on your life now.
You can fantasize in different brain states about being rich, pretty, successful, well off, in a happy
relationship, healthy, athletic, etc. Since we can't keep ourselves in that state all day long, in fact we think
the opposite, what happens once we get back to normal. Our "habitual", sabotaging, harmful thoughts creep
back into our minds and we are back to square one. We can start over again and again.
At first it seemed like I had wasted at least 33 years of my adult life, but I now put it all down to
experience. If I hadn't gone through all those negative events, I wouldn't have so much strength,
determination, faith, confidence, and valuable experience to give YOU. So, you too will have a chance to
save your own soul!
It was not an option for me to
- spend a lot of money,
- wait for long years and decades,
- a lot of energy to do different techniques over and over again,
- with outside help, reopening my old wounds over and over again, and then standing over them, helpless
because of the unresolved.
For me, it was not a solution, or it only worked for a while:
- "Forget it",
- "Forgive me."
- "Don't attract the bad stuff."
- "The universe gives all the good things back."
- "Let it go."
- "Think positive."
- "Get over it."
- "Don't be nervous."
- "Act out in your imagination what you say to people with hurtful behaviour."
- "Stop thinking negative things."
- "Imagine that you are content, pretty, thin, rich, successful, healthy, or in a happy relationship,
travelling anywhere you want regularly, doing your job with enthusiasm, etc."
- "Stop focusing on your problems."
- "Bury it."
- "You can't solve it anyway."
- "Sweep it under the carpet."
- "You deserve it.", etc.

Why?

Because that's not what I thought and felt inside. All my cells were protesting against them.
My 51 years of experience showed me that over-complicated, over-mystified, "Let’s call it a long shot!"
type teachings did not work for me. I've talked to many people on the path of self-discovery over the
decades, but no one has ever been able to put into practice the advice of "Forgive!", "Let it go!", "Forget

it!", etc. That's why my attention has been drawn to my most ordinary, simple thoughts, words, reactions,
behaviour patterns. These harmful thoughts managed to make my life miserable for 50 years. But never in
my wildest dreams did I think, "Oh, I'm so lame again!", "Oh my God! I'm so scared, I'm going to have a
heart attack!", "I'm such a cow!", etc., or with my self-sabotaging sentences like "I'm not going to make
it!", "I'm too little for this!", etc., I have made my adult life miserable and put the biggest obstacles in my
own way.
We can delve into the past, examine old family stories and destinies. Our parents, grandparents and
great-grandparents went through painful and difficult times. They had a lot of fears, wrong, abusive
thoughts and feelings that we cannot change.
At first sight, it seemed that I had wasted 33 years from my adult life, however now I know that it
was the lesson to be learnt, If I had not experienced those negative happenings, I wouldn’t have so much
power, resolution, belief, trust, wise experience that I could convey to you. Therefore, you get the chance
to save your soul.

So, what can we do?

There is only one thing we can do to stop the negative belief systems of many generations, the negative
legacies of the past:

WE CAN OVERRIDE OUR WRONG THINKING RIGHT HERE AND NOW,

to ensure that the generations that follow us (our children, grandchildren, great-grandchildren, etc.)
will have a happy, balanced, valuable, and easy life.
Our real imprint on the earth is the way we live. We are living, living models, role models for our
descendants. Therefore, it is to go through all the lessons in our life. The doctrinal core is in our minds,
the tool is this method. Everyone's curriculum is different, because our destiny, our life journey, our
experiences, our memories, our actions, our feelings and especially our THOUGHTS ARE DIFFERENT.
That's why it's worth starting on this path with the practical steps of my method, which not only help us
recognize and understand our good and bad qualities, but also get answers how and why they were formed,
process old grievances, bring up ourselves, and reframe our harmful thinking. As a result of all this, WE
CAN LIVE A PERFECT, SUCCESSFUL, HAPPY LIFE!
How about a technique to keep your brain clear in a waking state, while doing activities you love, feeling
good, happy, and balanced? A technique that can help you process the shadows of your past in a way that
can no longer negatively affect your present or your future with a AWAKE, CLEAR, SIMPLE, LOGICAL
MIND and COMMON-SENSE!
My method is not only different from all the others in this way, but the exercises are contains tangible,
simple and logical to follow.
For this reason, don't be surprised if you first have thoughts that the exercises seem too simple when
you first read them through. Moreover in fact, at first you may find it hard to believe that it is enough to
transform your harmful thoughts and your life will work well.
How did I develop these exercises? What purpose do they serve? What benefits can you get from

doing them?

I have spent many years gathering information, listening to my reactions, my logical, clear thinking and
my instincts and intuition to put these exercises together.
For 3.5 years I searched, but I could not find anywhere an effective, simple, logical, common-sense,
easy to understand and apply technique, a set of exercises that would have pulled me out of the deepest
hole in my life at one fell swoop. Rather, I found information on various self-awareness/self-development
techniques that:
- need very long, time consuming work,
- need very hard, and long work,

- you can't do it alone because there are very difficult psychological processes,
- very expensive to go to a professional for many months, years,
- the result, the success is not guaranteed,
- motivational lectures are useless, because you won’t remember them the next day
- it is necessary to undergo more and more self-awareness trainings,
- I can go to lifestyle improvement camps, but I have to go back to my real, everyday world at the end
of these lifestyle camps,
- it’s no use meditating if I can't manage my stressful life,
- I have to put a lot of energy into it,
- if I can't get the family stories from my older relatives,
- it's not worth starting without a teacher because I can't motivate myself properly,
- listening to motivational-relaxation materials is useless by itself, they don't help anyway,
- energy treatments will not eliminate the cause of the illness, they will only alleviate the symptoms,
- faith, confidence, positive thinking, trauma will always be a barrier,
- no matter how successful the meditation is, when it is done the problems will come again,
- if you have 3 or 4 out of 10 behaviours, you can label yourself as narcissistic, borderline, etc.
- instead of solving my own specific life and problems, it's just a generalisation,
- it's implied that I need to stand up for myself, but I don't get a solution to why I can't defend
myself,
- how many courses on different subjects and how many sessions on self-awareness do I need to take in
order to get a little better?
- why does advice such as "Don't think about it", "Stop berating yourself", "Don't say things like that to
yourself", etc. are not working against my own abusive behaviour?
- each trauma has to be explored individually, which is very painful, etc.
I consider the millions of pieces of information I have learned over 3.5 years as puzzle pieces and the
method I have developed as a 1000-piece puzzle. From the millions of pieces of information, I picked out
the puzzle pieces that seemed to work, added my own experiences, and then tried each exercise first on
myself and then developed it further. I carefully thought through the parts that worked best and wrote
each exercise in easy-to-understand language, with every word meaningful. For this reason, I recommend
that you read through the exercises several times and thoroughly before you begin.
I have arranged the availability of the lessons so that you can spend at LEAST ONE MONTH on a
lesson. You can access the next lesson after that.
You can comfortably and safely acquire my method during 20 months. The good news is that you can go
on in your own rhythm.
For instance, you cannot move on to the next lesson due to an unexpected event, then
1) you can continue any time with the next lesson,
2) you don’t need to restart the programme for lesson one,
3) you won’t lose your previously gained knowledge and experience
4) you won’t skip any lesson, so you won’t miss out anything.

Why and how have I created the exercises from months 3 to 20?

You did not develop your wrong thinking in one day. So, you can give yourself enough time to learn the
right things. Only then can it become embedded in your life, as a habit in your daily routine.
How? Because the way our brains work is a miracle in itself, our thinking is an amazing ability. What we
teach our brain, it remembers. Learning new personality traits through practice works in the same way
that:

- when we learn to ride a bicycle as a child, or when we learn to drive as an adult, we practice until our
brain knows what to do automatically, without having to pay attention to the smallest details or steps
again,
- we had to repeat the multiplication table hundred times before we could automatically get the result
even when we were woken up from sleep,
- learning a foreign language, repeating the words you learn until your brain records them, etc.
In the same way, you can teach your brain how to build a new system of thinking and habits. This is also
how you can incorporate new traits into your personality, "nurturing" yourself into a healthy, ideal
personality.
To reframe the negative thoughts that are ingrained in the deepest layers of your brain, you need
regular daily practice for at least a month. This way, at the end of the month, you will experience the
benefits of doing such a thorough job. After a month, your brain will automatically "tune in" to the things
you have learned.

You guarantee success!

I have had these phrases on my bedroom wall for several years, I see and read them several times a

day:
"Trust in yourself.
Trust your Soul!

Easy-peasy, step by step: take action!
Enjoy every moment!”

How did I develop these exercises? What purpose do they serve? What benefits can you get from

doing them?

I spent many years gathering information to put these exercises together, while listening to my
instincts, my intuition, my reactions, my logical, clear thinking.
I tried each exercise on myself first, thinking carefully over each word for months. I wrote down
simple, logical, workable exercises in which every word has meaning. That's why I recommend reading
through the exercises carefully, several times and preparing them thoroughly before you start.
I recommend practising an exercise for at least a month, because only then can it become a habit in
your life. The way our brains work is a miracle, our thinking is a wonderful faculty. What we teach our
brain, it remembers. Learning new personality traits through practice works in the same way that:
- when we learn to ride a bicycle as a child, or when we learn to drive as an adult, we practice until
our brain knows what to do automatically, without having to pay attention to the smallest details
or steps again,
- we had to repeat the multiplication table a hundred times before we could automatically get the
result even when we were woken from sleep,
- learning a foreign language, repeating the words you learn until your brain records them, etc.
In the same way, you can teach your brain how to build a new system of thinking and habits. This is also
how you can incorporate new traits into your personality, nurturing yourself into a healthy, ideal
personality.

Month 6: Cleaning work done with myself

By the end of 2022, I realized that for 50 years I had been the biggest abuser of my life. For 50
years, I had been telling myself in my mind, sometimes in words, sometimes with funny, sometimes with

serious, sometimes with innocuous terms, sometimes with hurtful swearing, about the abuse. These
negative expressions may seem like small things, but I have done myself a lot of harm.
What are these expressions? For example: have You ever said to yourself?
- "Oh, I'm so stupid!"
- "I blew it again!"
- "Damn it!"
- "I'm messing up again!"
- "This can only happen to me!"
- "I can't believe it!"
- "How can I be so stupid?"
- "Damn it, I deserved it!"
- "All I can ever do is yell!"
- "I'm neurotic"
- "I can't calm down!"
- "I'm in an undignified position again!"
- "I'm so clumsy, I'm messing up again!"
- "I look terrible!"
- "I'll never make it!"
- "The problem is..!"
- "I won’t succeed in this!"
- "I can't do anything!"
- "The issue is that...!"
- "I'm a bitch, all I can do is complain!"
- "I can't do it!"
- "I almost had a heart attack!"
- "I'm having a stroke!"
- "I can't even remember that!"
- "I can never accomplish anything!"
- "How miserable I am!"
- "I'm a real loser!"
- "I try so hard, I get nowhere!"
- "Food is wasted in me!"
- "I'm a piece of shit!"
- "I'm fooling myself again!"
- "I've no luck in love!"
- "I'm just trouble!"
- "Money's running away from me!"
- "I've got a sieve for brains, it's all falling out!"
- "I'll never have a house, car, vacation home, clothes, jewellery, etc.!"
- "Why do unfair things only happen to me?"
- "The problem is that...."
I could go on and on.
Since you have been unwittingly keeping your attention on these things by having them appear in your
mind, they have been destructive to your life.
If you too want to turn your life in the right direction, then from now on, you too should pay attention
to them and use constructive expressions instead!
Write them all down here to see how much you've been hurting yourself with. Next to it, write the
transformed, constructive equivalent, for example:
"Oh, how stupid of me!" - "I'm getting smarter every day!"
"I can't even remember that!"-"My memory is getting better every day!"

Month 6 Constructive questions + Audio material

My sabotaging words and phrases Terms to help you progress
I can't get anything done I am successful and persistent in

everything

I get into a lot of things and don't finish
them

I am focused, well organised, aware,
goal-oriented
I have time, I'm a procrastinator I act immediately
I am messy, lazy I am systematic, energetic
everybody succeeds but me I am successful
I'm ashamed, I scold myself if I don't do
something the way I planned

I take pride in myself for being goal-
oriented
It is too good to be true I enjoy nice thing
I'll never get what I want I manage to achieve my goals easily
I've got to be grateful because I've got
bread on my table and a roof over my head

I can achieve anything I want
you can't afford it it is natural for me to be happy, healthy

and wealthy

you're too selfish, always thinking of
yourself

I can make others happy if I am happy

Money doesn't make you happy, that's not
true happiness

with money I can create my own
happiness, support others
you think you're too smart I am smart, wise, conscious
you deserve all the bad you get what I get, I work for
you're good for nothing I can achieve my goals
you're just trouble, you're just trouble I am likeable, respectable
you can't behave I think, feel, speak, act well
you're too stubborn, you're too
unmanageable

I am adaptable, a good cooperator
you waste all your money I manage my finances well
live below your means I am confident and think big
it was a shame to listen to you, to trust you, I am reliable
you messed it up too I am successful in learning from my

mistakes
you're too stupid for it I can do everything
don't even think of doing anything I can do anything
you'll only get what you want if you behave
well

it is natural to get things, to achieve
things

is nothing enough for you? I can desire anything

I'm not in the mood for anything, "sh*t" is
"sh*t"

I am lively and energetic
I'm tired and exhausted all the time I have energy for everything
I can never sleep well anymore? I wake up rested and energetic in the

morning

I'm afraid I can't do it I do my best to achieve my goals
I don't know where to go next I always see my potential
I'm either happy or rich I create my inner-external wealth
he who is lucky in play is unlucky in love my life is a joyful game
only stupid, unlucky, poor men want you I am surrounded by valuable, balanced,

exciting men

you're too beautiful, but you're also dumb beauty and intelligence go hand in hand
how can you have such stupid ideas? I am very creative
stop bugging me, stop annoying me the other person is responsible for

his/her reaction
don't talk back, don't have the last word listening is gold
shut your mouth or I'll smash it I draw my strength and perseverance

from myself

I'm beating you to get the job done, because
you wouldn't do anything on your own

I do my best

but the other guy does everything right, he's
better than you at everything

I can desire anything
you can't want more I can make everything my own
Can't you learn anything properly? You'll
always be stupid

I can learn anything

Why are you always sick? Pull yourself
together

I am healthy

I spend all my free time in pain and sick I am healthy and full of life
Why am I so lame, miserable, stupid? I do my best to progress
Why do I get this from fate, why do I
deserve all this bad?

I draw constructive conclusions from my
failures
Why am I so sickish I am healthy
No one loves me I am valuable
I have to work hard for every penny I am effortlessly yet deliberately on my

way
The rich are crooks, they got their money
dishonestly

my conscious journey is also a rich one

Money is dirty I use my money as a tool
I'm miserable, useless I am valuable and lucky
I can't do anything I can acquire anything
I don't know what my mission in life is I know what I want to do
Everybody's in a happy relationship, but I'm
not

I am fully capable of a harmonious
relationship

All men are bastards, they just want sex there are men who want a valuable

relationship

money runs out of your hands,you can't
manage money, you spend it on unnecessary
things

I'm smart with money

I'm scared that I'll run out of money before I am purposeful with money

my next salary, and I'll have to borrow some
they cheat you all the time, lie to you, hurt
you

I am ideal at dealing with abusers
get yourself a rich, old, sick guy I am surrounded by youthful, energetic,

valuable men

once down, once up I benefit from the "downstairs"
All good things come to an end I draw strength from good things
You can't always be happy I can make my moments happy
wealthhas a price my self-awareness is my study money
I don't know where to go from here I can see my way clearly
I can't be happy in all areas of my life,
there's always trouble somewhere

I can make all areas of my life happy and
content

You're always messy, but the other one my own values are the most important
The Lent of this will come of course there are 2 sides to a coin
you'll end up crying it is natural that a coin has 2 sides
I can't be happy for long, for some reason
everything goes wrong

I can make my moments happy

there's always something wrong in my
relationship

I can make my moments happy

I just don't want a drunk, abusive,
brainwashed man to come along again

I have valuable, reliable, balanced, happy
relationships

I can't believe it. It's unbelievable. I'll get something valuable out of this too
let the difficulty break out, damn you I wish you all the best
with a kid and a hump on your back, you're on
your own.

I can always feel happy
You're wasting your best years alone I learn and grow in every moment
You don't know how to behave with men I treat my femininity with respect
I'm not worth enough to be loved, cherished,
respected

I love, appreciate and respect myself
Why come to me when you're in trouble? I can count on myself the most
I can't trust myself to a man, because I'm
going to disappoint

I trust myself and my relationships

I can't love unconditionally, in unconditional
happiness

I love myself, my life, my precious human
relationships

You've been beaten because you deserve it I am consistent in my treatment of the

physically weaker

You do everything wrong, you can't do
anything

I do my best

there's not one normal guy in the world,
everyone's divorcing

men who are ready for a harmonious
relationship seek my company
I'm a shitty mother I am a loving mother with a pure heart
you have to earn everything first I am naturally happy
every guy has to be served I have harmonious relationships of equals
You're a whore, you should be ashamed of
yourself!

I am a woman of value and integrity

you deserve to be hurt because you're stupid
and gullible

I am intelligent and studious

A woman who doesn't have a tumour by the
age of 50 can live to a ripe old age

I am healthy and energetic

I have too much of a burden on me, I can't
cope with my problems, and I'm sickly, no one

I am healthy, energetic

can help me
I don't have enough strength/energy to
fight my illnesses my pains

I react well to negative situations
if my right palm itches, I spend money I do my best for my health
if the tap drips, runs, my money runs out money flows naturally in my life
life situations come up that take my money ideas keep coming to my income sources
I can never put money aside, gather, save,
invest

I am financially prosperous

I'm afraid my investments will go bust, float
away

I invest my money wisely
if my right eye itches, I will cry I cry with excitement and joy
all my winnings will be gone I invest money wisely
I am invisible to men because of my weight I accept myself as I am inside and out
I'm loved for what's inside, not just what's
outside

I can cover up my shortcomings and
emphasise my strengths

It can't get any worse, it can only get higher I make the best of every bad situation
Why can't I always get it right the first
time?

I am patient and persistent

why do I have to put double, triple the
energy into everything?

I am patient, I am persistent
why do I sabotage my own progress? I can move on successfully
why am I so fat and big? I am aesthetic, feminine
why do I have such a big double chin? I am aesthetic
I don't have enough time to do the things I
love

I am always focused on one thing, moving
forward in small steps

the Hungarians are envious, spiteful: if my
cow dies, so does the other one

I learn the constructive lesson from every
mistake
when the money comes, I get scared, I've
never had so much money

I manage money and wealth wisely

if I have extra, lots of money, what do I do
with it? i'm afraid I'll be just as rubbish as
the millionaires

I am smart about money, wealth and my
thoughts about them

I'm scared that my personality will be
distorted, that I'll be spineless if I have a
lot of money

I am smart about money and my thoughts
about wealth

I don't deserve success, I'm scared of
success, I can't appreciate it

I am smart about my thoughts on success

I don't deserve the money, because I'd just
bite it off

I am smart about money and my thoughts
about wealth

I'm afraid I can't succeed because no one
would believe me, no one would follow me, no
one would listen to me

I am smart about my thoughts about
success, I am confident

I don't want to be unlucky, a loser I am successful because I make decisions

in every moment

success, glamour is false and short-lived
anyway

I know that I am a winner

the rich boast, brag of their money I learn, I experience the "modest" wealth

mentality

very few rich people help the needy noble purpose ennobles

I deserve support, help, because I can't work
because of my illness

I am healthy and energetic and I work
towards my goals every day
I don't want to live in poverty and sickness health, energy, material well-being are

natural to me

How long will I get a slap in the face from
life?

I have the right reactions

I hate that I can't get rid of my bad
qualities

I process my negative thoughts

I'll only have pretty, beautiful clothes when
I've lost weight, until then I cover up, I'm
ashamed of myself

I dress in a pretty, feminine, aesthetic,
chic way

I can't get any lower than this I learn from every situation, build myself

up

What have I got to lose? what can I gain?
give me the rusty spike I am confident ....
There's no honest way to get rich I can earn my happy riches honestly
"But you've grown fat, you used to be so
pretty!"

I am satisfied with my feminine forms
I can't make it on my own I am successful, skilful, persistent
it's financially easier with a partner, but I
don't want to be in a relationship just to be
financially easier

I can stand on my own, with a partner you
have a different quality of fulfilment
if my nose itches, I get annoyed if my nose itches I can learn something

valuable again
you're too stupid for that I'm smart
I could be paralyzed at any moment I'll do my best for my health
it's only gonna make my spine worse I'll do my best for my health
I'm afraid if I'm honest and open about
myself, I'll be taken advantage of, hurt

I'm unique, I'm valuable

I just don't want a drunk, drug addict,
narcissistic, aggressive, ruin-everything guy

I'm surrounded by men with healthy
values
I'd rather not talk to anybody, so I don't get
found by stupid men

I am open to men with healthy values

At first everything is fine and dandy in my
relationships, then everything goes bad

I can create my happiness in every
moment
The waves are crashing over my head, the
world is against me

I make the most of every situation

I was born in the sign of cancer, so I'm very
vulnerable

I am strong and determined
Why do I lose everything, everyone? my relationships are valuable
why can't I behave like a woman with men? I have integrity as a woman
why do I give myself easily, too soon to men? I behave with integrity in my relationships
all the bad must be covered up and the good
must be shown outwardly

being honest is good

I'm ashamed of my name, I've been called a
crooked stick-if only I wasn't like that

a smile is a curve
Even the air makes me fat I eat healthy
I weigh a lot because I have strong bones I have a feminine figure
I've had another bad day, I've been annoyed
all day

what's the use if I drop something for
the third time and have to bend down to
get it? I can do stretching exercises!

haven't slept well, everything's against me,
everything's annoying me

I can keep my energy levels up by focusing
on the benefits of all the negatives
You've always been naive and gullible I am bona fide, I can see clearly what is

happening for what reason
It's a woman's fate, a mother's fate I can shape my destiny in any capacity
You have to put up with the bad I can create my good life